Mothering

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Everyone at some time has or had a mother.

Anna Jarvis of West Virginia (History.com5.2018) in 1868 developed the Mother’s Friendship Day.  This group of mothers organized to work with soldiers, both union and confederate, to help bring about reconciliation after the civil war. In 1908, Anna Jarvis’s daughter, Anna Reeves Jarvis initiated a letter-writing campaign to have Mother’s Day become an official holiday.  In 1910 West Virginia became the first state to recognize the holiday.  By 1914 Mother’s Day became an official U.S. holiday.

However, the idea of recognizing mothers is not a new idea.  Celebrating the bond between mothers and children can be traced back to the ancient Egyptians and Romans.  These cultures devised pagan celebrations to honor the goddesses Rhea and Cybele.  The most popular Christian festival for more modern times is known as “Mothering Sunday.”  This tradition was held in the UK and Europe on the 4th Sunday in Lent and was a time for the faithful to return to their “mother church” – the main church in the vicinity of their home.

Over time this tradition changed to a more secular holiday where children presented flowers and other tokens to their own mothers to express their love and appreciation.  This custom around the 1930’s and 1940’s morphed into the U.S. commercial celebration of American Mother’s Day.

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Even though Anna Reeves Jarvis initiated a campaign to recognize Mother’s Day, she denounced the commercialism of the day and spent the latter part of her life trying to rid the celebration of its’ commercial aspect.  She intended the day to be an intimate affair between mother and child where children would spend time composing a personal letter expressing their heartfelt feeling for her dedication and nurturing.  As we can see,  commercialism may have won the day.

Whether your mother lives next door, many miles away or no longer inhabits this earth take a few minutes to reflect on what your life would be like without a mother.  When you’re finished give your mom a call and wish her a “Happy Mother’s Day.”  A personal phone call or a heartfelt, handwritten note is far more appreciated than a commercially purchased, computer printed card.

Joyce K. (Gatschenberger) Walters M.S., C.D., B.S.N., R.N.                                                              Linesoflisteningblog.wordpress.com                                                                                                  linesoflistening.com

 

 

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Healthy Generations

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Located inside the Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) is the Office of Women’s Health (OWH).  This agency recommends that everyone check out the Surgeon General’s Office (SGO) to examine the Family Health Portrait.  This program was established in 2016 and is successful in developing individual, web-based programs for generational families who want to track and predict their health risk and assist them in making screening and treatment decisions about their health and the future conditions of their yet-unborn family members.

This type of tracking can be especially useful since medical conditions such as cancer, diabetes, heart disease and certain auto-immune illnesses often run in families.  This type of medical tracking can help to focus attention on a family’s health in much the same manner that DNA testing and a genetic genealogy map can reveal a person’s genealogical journey.

However, as we all know, there are always risks in any venture such as this.  Many people don’t want to place any personal information into a web-based program.  There are certainly security concerns to this argument.  I’m one of those advocates and am cautious about sharing my personal information in any format in which I am not fully comfortable.

The basic idea though is sound.  However, you may determine that verbally sharing with family members is more effective and personal.  It may be prudent to consider this option before it is needed.  By that, I mean before a family member is diagnosed with a chronic or life-threatening disease and you have to “backtrack” to determine if anyone else in the family has ever been diagnosed with a similar condition.  Knowing your family’s risk factors for any illness can be both confusing and comforting.

You may not want to know your chances of developing cancer or heart disease.  You may choose to live a healthy lifestyle and accept whatever comes into your life.  However, if one of your children is diagnosed with systemic lupus or juvenile arthritis, it may be helpful to know if any of your older relatives were diagnosed with the same medical condition at an early age. Your medical provider will probably ask you that exact question when your child receives their diagnosis.  Tracking your family’s medical tree will give you the answer at a glance.

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I’m sure that many families have had similar discussions about health history tracking.  The conversation goes something like this: “Didn’t Aunt Sally have diabetes? Or was it Uncle Joe?  I know that mom said one of her siblings had something wrong with the sugar in their blood.  Somebody was always doing the “finger sticking” thing.”  Anxious family members sit in the hospital waiting room shaking their heads and waiting for word from the ER doctor about grandpa after he was admitted for “high blood sugar.”  If someone in the family had taken the initiative to complete a health history tracking then everyone would know the answer about Aunt Sally and Uncle Joe.

Now, I will say this: there is always someone in the family who ain’t sharin’ nothin’ about themselves to nobody for any reason – good or bad.   They don’t care if it’s for their long-lost aunt or their favorite cousin – they ain’t sharin’.  Well, that’s easy to fix.  The health history diagram slot for that particular family member can be completed and the space can be left black and possibly be filled in later.  Maybe the “non-sharer” will offer information once he or she takes a look at the completed chart.

The great thing about making a health history diagram is that everyone in the family has an opportunity to talk to each other.  Normally, this might not happen as often as you would like but this gives everyone a “generic” opportunity. The tracking of the past and current health status of family members is good for not only themselves but the next generation as well.  This is something that you can do now to help ensure that healthy generations are in your future.